Eudaimonia Tip # 15 – Accountability is true strength of character
It’s hard to believe that a year has gone by since my boyfriend passed away. February 5th was a day of retrospection for me to remember my loss, but also to recognize the strength I found to get through 2018. While he will always be a part of my past, there is more to my future that has yet to be written.
I thought that my time of grief was turning into a time of peace, but I’m finding there is still more to grieve in this world. They say ignorance is bliss, and with the recent news headlines, this is more than a colloquialism. Being able to go about my day, with only my circumstances and surroundings to deal with is something that I miss. I was browsing through my phone last week, and my usual youtube subscriptions on cats, kittens, or anything to do with animals showed up as usual.
So, there I was, minding my own business, watching Cat Man Chris save a werewolf cat, when autoplay somehow put in a news clip about the new law passed in New York which now allows for late-term, as in up to 40 weeks, abortions. I was bewildered and a put off by what I just watched, but then, and I’m ashamed to say this, I shrugged it off as typical liberal New York.
A few days later I see another news clip about a Virginia bill that would allow for third-trimester abortions; up to delivery, with vague medical reasons for interpretation. Due to the outrage to Tran’s bill, Virginia’s governor “explained” on a local radio show what the care of the aborted infant would look like:
“The infant would be delivered. The infant would be kept comfortable. The infant would be resuscitated if that’s what the mother and the family desired, and then a discussion would ensue between the physicians and the mother.” – Virginia Gov. Ralph Northam
So let’s unpack these few sentences:
The infant would be delivered – I’m assuming that this means the infant was delivered deceased due to the abortion procedure.
The infant would be kept comfortable – if the infant is deceased why does it need to be kept comfortable? The infant already felt the pain in the womb when it was being injected with chemicals to end its life.
The infant would be resuscitated if that’s what the mother and the family desired, – Wait… the pregnant woman wants to abort her baby in the third trimester, when it is most likely viable outside the womb, and when it’s delivered dead she now can make the decision to bring the baby back to life?
Physician, nurse or at this point the Janitor: “The abortion was a success and your baby is dead.”
The woman who aborted: “Um, can you resuscitate my baby, I’m still trying to decide what I want to do with my body.
And then a discussion would ensue between the physician and the mother – What the…?!?! What does that conversation even sound like? Medical representative: “Well, I’m sorry to tell you that your baby didn’t die during the abortion, no wait, It did but you said we should resuscitate it, and now I need to know if you want us to kill it AGAIN?!?!?!?
NO! NO! NO! This is not happening. This is not happening in my country! But it is, and it has been happening for decades. If you can stomach it, google Jill Stanek’s story on youtube, but I warn you to get a crate of tissues ready for what she recounts is worse than any horror movie ever made.
These two new unrestricted abortion bills are in essence legitimizing what Gosnell did in his practice in West Philadelphia, only instead of cat urine on the walls, and corroded equipment, and baby parts in jars, the unwanted babies are born in hospitals were some are left to die in utility rooms, and some accidentally thrown away. These two new bills are shedding light on a topic that most people want to avoid and turn away from because it’s so horrific. Or it’s a topic that does not apply to them.
Full disclosure, I’m not a mother, but I always dreamt I would have kids of my own. I am now 44 and happily single which means that kids are not part of my path in life. I struggled with the reality that I would never be able to experience creating life inside of my body. I mean, think about that… women have the power and the ability to grow a person inside of them. I marvel at the wonder and the superpower of the female body.
While I am pro-life; I am also pro-choice; the choice of self-control (abstinence), birth control, adoption or motherhood. I should clarify, this post is not about all stages of abortion. I’ve known women who have gone through this procedure within the first trimester and suffered through the guilt of their decision later in life. What I am trying to understand is why a woman who carries into the third trimester would decide to abort their baby after it starts to roll, kick and feel. I did a quick google search on the third trimester, and Whattoexpect.com explains that at 29 or 30 weeks the baby’s touch receptors are formed. By 31 weeks all of their senses are fully developed and the baby can perceive light and dark, taste what the mother eats, and hear their parents voices.
I understand that those who support these bills are arguing that these late-term abortions are necessary to save the pregnant woman’s life or if the infant has severe deformities. Only the laws are written intentionally vague to allow for any mental or physical reason presented by the pregnant woman to abort her infant at any stage during her pregnancy.
The truth is we have become a society that dismisses consequences and ignores accountability. We are here now, faced with the grim reality that innocent life, life that can feel and hear and taste in many cases is reduced to an inconvenience. True feminism is not putting a woman’s body over the life inside of them; true feminism is not treating pregnancy as a tumor that needs to be removed. True feminism is celebrating our ability to create and sustain life at any cost, not to destroy it for any reasons.